An interesting study was released in 2014 that found that teenagers have the ability to control their impulses better than adults when they are in a neutral environment. However the moment emotion is introduced their impulse control plummets. This seems to correlate to what we see in teenagers on our own, as they struggle to maintain their equilibrium in times of extreme stress.
Likewise, teenagers may have trouble saying no to things they consider pleasurable, or just denying their peers when offered things they know they should reject. This is the essence of peer pressure, which could be worsened by that impulse control issue.
Unfortunately a lack of control can lead to serious problems arising in both personal and professional situations. They can see their social life decline, or miss out on opportunities in their work like that could improve their lives.
Trying to teach impulse control to teenagers, especially those with behavioral issues, may be a struggle. But there are some simple ways to get started.
Encourage Hobbies and Extracurricular Activities
Depression and restlessness can lead to your teen making bad decisions. Having something such as a hobby or extracurricular activity to focus on keeps the mind from stagnating. It may also encourage them to stay away from decisions that could impact those activities and connect them to others who are a good influence.
Begin Monitoring Their Sleep and Diet Habits
Food and sleep impact so much in our lives. If your teen is tired they may be more prone to making decisions without thinking. Being hungry could lead them to snapping or doing something they will regret. You want to promote general health and give them the tools they need to control their impulses. These two factors are the simplest biological elements you can help your teen to control.
Encourage Them To Be Open With You
How wonderful would it be if your teen felt they could call you if they were facing a decision they knew was wrong? Or if they were feeling out of control and knew they could open up to you? Try to suspend judgement and be there to listen to your teen. It isn’t always easy but it could be the difference between a life altering reaction and moving past a serious issue.
Start a Meditation Practice
This is one idea that can benefit you and your teen, both. Start sitting down in the morning or evening for twenty minutes with your teenager and meditating. This could be silent, set to music or guided. You could even choose a walking meditation if you think it would be better for your child.
Get Them Some Professional Help
In some cases the impulse control problem is big enough that you need to seek professional help to deal with it. Therapy or even a structured school dedicated to helping troubled teens may be your best option.
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